Confused husband needing advice?

hello all, my wife and i have been fighting for the last couple weeks about her being controlling. She tells me that i need to stop cussing. i cuss on occasion, not much, and she tells me when me and our son are together i cant listen to rock and roll music and it has to be country, nothing else...grr, but anyways then she tells me that i have to live a christen lifestyle by joining groups and all, and im not really interested in that. (i love going to church). She also has alot of health issues and iv missed countless hours of work, always risking to be fired. She also goes to counceling and she wont tell me why. All of this stuff is wearing very thin on me. Iv been misrable and a little depressed from all the fighting and nothing has been resolved, im sorry icant be the husband she wants me to be but i try my hardest to have a roof over our heads and a meal everyday. Everyone from her brother inlaw tells me to leave to my own mother, does anyone have any helpful advice?